The Lie Behind the ADHD Hunter
OK – I’m outing myself. I am not some Super-Dad. Nor have I beaten ADHD. The guy with the cape doesn’t exist.
As the ADHD Hunter, I do know what we have had better success with. And equally, we have had massive failure moments. Perfection is unattainable.
The message here is not “Be Perfect” or “Never Fail”. The message is spend the time and energy to actively improve your ADHD life or to be a better parent for your ADHD child. Understand and develop our strengths. Understand and avoid our weaknesses.
I have walked away from many moments feeling that I have totally botched interacting with my kids and have left them emotionally scarred. There have been many moments where I have recognized that I let my ADHD control me. At those times, the most important things to do are pick ourselves up, make amends for what we’ve done wrong and resolve ourselves to doing it better the next time around.
Quitting isn’t an option. There are too many people who are counting on us to be the best we can, even if we’re not perfect all the time. If we really work at this, it does get better.
I think I’ll keep the cape though.
Thanks for this message Chris. You’re so right. I can go and go for a few days and sometimes and then get caught up in ADHD issues. Each time, I get up, brush myself off and keep going. And endless cycle? Who knows. I still aim to improve every day though.
There are times I can get pretty upset with myself for not following my own advice, especially where it effects the kids. It just reminds me that we are all human.
Thanks for commenting Carl.
- Chris
I have GOT to get C. reading these! Chris, a wonderful post. Parents, and kids, no matter what their age, need to know perfection isn’t attainable. You’d think a kid like C. would KNOW that, but I see patterns repeating that I’m not so comfy with.
AND…we’re NOW thinking the 4 yr old step daughter is ADHD as well as ODD. Sigh.
As always, great post!
A.
Thanks for all the kind comments Amy. As much as perfection is impossible, improving upon ourselves and reducing the impact of those repeating patterns will go a long way towards a better life, for son and daughter alike.
Thanks again for all of your support.
– Chris
ADHD or no ADHD, we are all human, finite and capable of making mistakes. We may see and use more variables in our lives than most but we tire, and still only see a limited world.
Thanks for joining the conversation John.